In high school, when you miss class for a day or two, your adviser will ask about you. If your grade doesn’t look good, they will talk to you and encourage you to do better in the next quarter. When you screw up, you’re given a lot of chances like special projects or your parents get called to the school.
While the only thing I remember bringing my mother to school for was PTA meetings, I do remember screwing things up.
The worst was not doing a community service in our Barangay as a final requirement in Values in third year. I almost cried in front of my teacher while she scolded me and my classmate. She showed us her class record and there, I saw a 60 plus grade. There’s a plus, but still, a 60? I never even got a 70 before, and I’m going to get a 60 now? I thought that was the end of the world. Thankfully our teacher was kind enough to allow as to submit our certificates the week after even if it was very very late.
That’s in high school.
In college, things are very different. When you screwed up, well, that’s it. You screwed up. Not that there’s no second chance. If you fail in midterms, there’s still finals. Also, there’s summer class and next semester for take two. What I mean is that, more often than not, you’ll only find out that you screwed up after you see your grades. Because in the process, no instructor will approach you and say “Hey, college girl, you’re being careless in the tests” or “I’m gonna talk to your parents” or “Why were you absent?”
Nope. None of those. No more showing of class records until it’s final.
So if you don’t feel like attending your class and listening to your boring instructor who doesn’t even know how to make a joke, or you have to sacrifice your class for a project in another subject? That’s up to you. No one’s gonna drag you to class. Instructors won’t care much about what other things you do with your time. One of my instructors last sem said, “You enrolled to my class, you attend it.” For as long as you do that, you take the test and submit the requirements, they’re fine.
But even if you don’t do all these, they’re still fine. Your presence is not that big of a deal for them. Yes, attendance gets checked. But unlike high school, your instructor won’t pause and ask why someone’s been missing the class for a week now.
They can simply mark you dropped with failure if you get past the allowable number of absents. No negotiations.
If you don’t feel like doing that final project, no instructor like my Values teacher will check on you or follow up your progress. It’s sad. But it’s the truth. Your grade still gets computed — whether there’s anything to compute or none.
I realized that in college, you’re pretty much on your own. It’s not to say that the instructors don’t care at all. Actually, you can ask them about things you don’t understand even outside the class. And they can give the best encouragements too. But more than anything else, your initiative will make you survive.
You’re the one to pat your shoulder and say “Hey, it’s time to get off of Facebook and review for the finals”, you’re the one to ask yourself “Is my performance good enough for a passing grade or more?”, you’re the one to get yourself out of the bed to go to school because your instructors won’t look for you or even wonder, you’re the one to decide on many things.
This time, you’re the only one to pick that spoon up and feed yourself. Because no one’s gonna tell you “Say aah”.
Did you feel the same when you entered the college world? Comment now! 🙂